Redeemed Conversations with A.R. Ledgister
Redeemed Conversations with A.R. Ledgister
The Dreamer - Affirmations of Worth Beyond Boundaries of Belief
Join us as we celebrate the undeniable power of positive thinking and the sheer beauty of self-love as a divine intention. We shine a spotlight on the creatives and dreamers, encouraging you to affirm your own worth with kindness, gentleness, and a peace that transcends all understanding. To our fellow millennials, we offer a special nod, advocating for a deep dive into self-understanding that's anchored in divine love, even beyond religious boundaries. As we wrap up, our spirits overflow with gratitude for the divine love that fosters a robust sense of self-appreciation. Together, we acknowledge our progress and the divine orchestration in our lives, concluding with a heartfelt thanks to the grace that sustains us all.
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no-transcript other, while sitting next to God talking about ourselves. You know, and last week we had a pretty hard conversation where the conversation was a little bit a little tricky, where we talked about doing our best and in the midst of us, trying to find ourselves, learn ourselves and get to the midst of ourselves, what it means for us to get over ourselves and just a bit of a review says you know, there's a opportunity for you to take life for where life has it and see if there is maybe some learnings and some things and some wisdoms that you can find in the midst of not getting things that you can find in the midst of not getting things normally your way. It was a really, really cool time. I encourage you guys to go back and take a look. And you know shameless plug we're here every Friday night 11 pm. We will do our best to have conversations where we're able to not only digest some of the conversations that society is talking through, but we're also talking about it through the lens and the microscope of an honest relationship with God, not the churchy one, not the ones that you got to think so hard through, but the ones that's through a place of love and law of love. And today we are wrapping up this month, the month, the self-talk month, and it's a wonderful time and I wanted to encourage y'all, I wanted to go down the road of encouraging you, reminding you of some of the things we got going on, and I just want to start the broadcast off with this, the wrap up. You can and you will Say that with me. I can and I will, because I am learning how to talk to myself the best way possible. That's possible, absolutely possible. We're trying something a little new. Tonight we are live also on Instagram, so I'm going to try to do my best to slate up a little bit to make sure we can be seen. But take a listen, turn me on, let's listen, let's talk through it, but let's go through some time of review. Listen, turn me on, let's listen, let's talk through it, but let's go through some time of review.
Speaker 2:I think part of the conversation when we first started this self-talk was down the road of really trying to understand where it comes from, to have a conversation with yourself. That doesn't go as well as you'd like it to go, you know, and one of the things that I really uh, I really kind of got pressed on was how we in today's age, and especially with um, walking in your relationship with God and walking towards maybe hopefully getting a relationship with God. You don't really understand and tradition hasn't really given you the opportunity to know that the first law and the main law of God is love. You know, and I know a lot of people are going to say, well, god is so much more than love, but is he? Everything God has done attributes to love came from love, out of love, talking about love, we in love. So that's one of the things that I wanted to kind of get to the review on and even the more, give you guys some encouragement towards the next few days and the next few weeks of this month and just let you know.
Speaker 2:So at the top of the month we talked about Galatians 5 and 22, where we talked and said the scripture says but the fruit of the spirit is love, joy. The fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance. I always stay on this word forbearance, because this word forbearance is pockets and periods of grace, because we're all going to need them. Kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control Against most of these things there's no law. So that's the part that I really wanted to get to the nitty gritty of that. What if we applied again this scripture to how we talk to ourselves, continuing to talk to ourselves from a place of love, a place of joy, a place of peace, a place of forbearance which is grace, a place of kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. And we did it unlimitlessly, no limits. We continued and forever continued to pour into our lives, telling ourselves what we're able to do, what we can do, what things can be accomplished. Should I have the opportunity to really look at myself and talk to myself Now?
Speaker 2:I know I think there has been a lot of controversy in regards to what's safe to say to yourself and how much of self-discovery should be rooted in encouragement. And where does discipline and encouragement begin and start? And you see, part of the whole conversation says if you're not coming from a place of love, if you're not coming from a place of peace, if you're not coming from a place of peace, we're not coming from the place of joy, you're not coming from a place of understanding with yourself, you, you absolutely can put yourself in a place to where you will be in this rut cycle of condemnation, compare, comparisons and just a whole lot of conversation that really has nothing to do with your future, and I think that's one of the things that I was so pressed on when it came to this topic, because I think it's no doubt that many of us have high expectations for ourselves. And don't get me wrong, high expectations for yourself is absolutely right. It's absolutely good. However, when you take the time to really understand what it means to do self-encouragement and self-love and talking to oneself, you realize that often it is not a craft and an art that many of us have mastered. So that's what I wanted to talk through tonight and talk through for this month, because this month has really been about different paths and different conversations you have with yourself, and one of the main ones that I really enjoyed was the conversation of self-love.
Speaker 2:And I wanted to review self-love because, when it gets to the nitty gritty of life, you have to be able to do self-trust in self-love. You have to know that, through the midst of it all, you got to have your back. You got to have confidence in self. Marcus Garvey said it wonderfully. He said in the race of life, to not have confidence in self, you've lost twice, and if you have confidence in self, you have already won. So how do we speak confidence to ourselves, how do we push confidence to ourselves?
Speaker 2:And you know, I think a lot of times we don't marry self-encouragement with God. All the time, you know, we may believe that God is a God of fire and brimstone and a God of judgment and condemnation, and that couldn't be further from the truth. Now, there are going to be things that God's going to want to get right with us. However, god will always do it from a place of love. Even if it's coming to discipline, god does it from a place of love. And if we haven't really understood where that is and how that works and where that's come from, you often get to a place of not really having a true and authentic. Maybe you have a traditional relationship and conversation with God, but you won't have an authentic one. And the authentic one says no matter how I am, no matter what I am, should I have the heart to want to talk to God about all of this, about what I am, who I am, who I think I am, everything of that nature? You are still absolutely able to do so and before you even get to the conversation of thinking, you know what God's going to say back to you you got to get aware of what you're saying to yourself. Now, I'm not going to lie.
Speaker 2:That's a struggle that I had growing in the music industry. You know, the music industry often would make me have to play this comparison trap, the trap that says, if you are going to continue to work in the music business and you're going to continue to be in the music business, that you're going to have to conform, that you're going to have to become whatever, whatever you think is necessary for others to enjoy. And honestly, instead of me telling myself you know what, you are good enough, you're talented enough, you're gifted enough, you're strong enough, I thought I was doing self-encouragement by saying you could be better, do better, do better, do better. But there was a trick, there was a psychological understanding that I had to come to, and that psychological understanding was you have to first have a foundation of encouragement and trust in order to begin to see change. And many of us are not, aren't taking that time with self.
Speaker 2:Do we take the time with self to say you know what I am going to? First take the time to appreciate self, self-appreciation, take the time to appreciate self, self-appreciation, self-grace, self-compassion See, these are concepts that many of us haven't gone through to really digest. And you know, we have self-improvement books, we have the things that teach us what to say, but they don't teach us how to accept it. You know, often you will see self-help books that tell you that. You know, I talked earlier this month about Vincent Peale's book, the Power of Positive Thinking, and the whole time through the book I'm thinking, I'm going to see, like these major business moves and a lot of the things that you realize, positive thinking was attached to self-thought and your conversation with yourself and God, and it was something that I so, absolutely so, missed all the time and I was like you know what I'm going to try. I'm going to try to see what this looks like. I'm going to try to see how this looks and I'm going to try to see how this looks and I'm going to try to really walk through the course of this month, hourly by hour, daily after day, minute after minute.
Speaker 2:Encourage yourself again, talk to yourself from a place of love, from the spirit, from a place of love, a place of joy, a place of peace. Again, forbearance, kindness, goodness, fullness, gentleness and self-control. And again, the end of the scripture says against such things there's no law. So to talk to yourself and to operate with yourself from that place you get to an honest place with yourself that allows you to love on yourself, appreciate yourself. I told you I was talking about my history in the music business and how often I did not have an opportunity. Well, you know, I had the opportunity, but I didn't have the backbone to take, to pick, to actually speak up for myself, not necessarily letting myself get trampled over, but when I played the comparison game with myself, I did not take up for myself.
Speaker 2:Often, many of us don't do that now of us don't do that now, when an opportunity comes, is the first thing that you say to yourself I can, or is the first thing that you'll say to yourself is I'll fail. And you got to be able to ask yourself that question. Because if your first response to self says I question, I don't know, I believe I will fail, then you might be in need of some self-talk improvement. And ultimately, there's no age that is too late to start this. You can start this from a child. Those of you who have children, you can teach them how to talk to themselves. Those of you who have parents who are a little older and you want to share this.
Speaker 2:As far as conversations, I love talking to my mentors and my older people that I have and I ask them what did you say to yourself? Not just necessarily how you talk, but what did you say to yourself? Necessarily how you talk, but what did you say to yourself? How much did you say great things to yourself and did it work? I think, honestly, you realize that self-improvement, self-awareness, if it's not grounded in self-love, you are doing yourself a disservice. And you know there comes a time where you have to know that you're enough. You have to know that even when you are the enough that you're trying to obtain, that the enough can be approved, improved upon. But don't forsake your current progress, sake your current progress. And I told you tonight I wanted to do my best at giving you as much encouragement as possible because, honestly, there's a level of self-doubt and a level of self-discouragement that I want to kill Because, honestly, if you understood how great God made you already, I keep going back to the point that the Lord put on my heart, that God, he's the creative creator.
Speaker 2:You know, a lot of times people look at creatives like, oh they crazy, oh they weird. Yeah, you keep talking, but everything that we have, or the existence, came out of a creative heart and mind, and the wonderful thing about it, y'all, is that you were created for a particular purpose, and as we go through this and again I'm telling you you can and you will. So, as you go through this particular purpose and as you walk through your particular purpose, find a way to say things to yourself that maybe you never have in the past. Even if you're finding some level of success, even if you're walking in a certain level of success, find what it looks like to talk to yourself from a place of love, peace, joy, forbearance, kindness, gentleness, and do it abundantly and see what happens, because, ultimately, what's the worst that can happen? You feel more encouraged, you feel better about what you didn't feel the best about before.
Speaker 2:Listen this, the millennial generation. Right now, you know it goes all the way from late 20s to mid 30s, and this is the time in our lives where it is a necessity for you to understand self, for you to understand self. However, I'm asking what does it look like to understand self through the eyes of God that sees you through the heart of love? And the eyes of love. What does that look like? So, honestly, the conversation tonight is really not meant to be super long, but it's meant to be impactful so that you can think through it, so that you can think through the thought process that says what if? What if I honestly gave myself a pat on the back daily? What if I honestly said to myself King queen, you're amazing and you're amazing the way that you are and keep trying. You see, that's the big one To keep going, to keep doing something that you may not see all the best results from, but you keep going and one day you'll be proud of yourself. You see, I know Instagram and YouTube is going to have a lot of different people who can tell you, you know, how to be better. It's going to tell you what they think you should do, what they think you should buy.
Speaker 2:But, honestly, if you can take the time to fit it in your heart and in your schedule to say you know what I can and I will, I can and I will, and you know, beloved, I think that that's where we are. That's where we are. There comes a point where you realize that life and everything included in it can be shaped by our thoughts, that everything that you aspire to be is shaped by your thoughts. And the cool part and the safe part that says God is in my heart, god is in my thoughts Now, whether we go to church or not. You see, if you believe, if you seek, seek you'll find. I mean, all this is scripture. So this is the part that I wanted to make sure we closed out the month with that.
Speaker 2:Going forward, as you continue to build in your life, do your best. Do your best, Do your best to find pockets of time to encourage yourself. Tell yourself you can, and not just you can, but I will, it will happen. The dreams, the hopes, the goals the creative creator gave you, you can and you will, and I think that's the real part that a lot of us have to get to and be okay with it. So, again, I told you I wasn't going to keep on, keep you on here long, but if you could, for the rest of this month I'm asking all of what Galatians talked about, where it says again the spirit, the fruit of the spirit, love again, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness. See if you can talk to yourself from that place. Talk to yourself from a place where you are encouraging yourself.
Speaker 2:In the midst of trying to be better. All of us will do our best to be better, but you can't forget to show yourself some love. You can't forget to know that the immediate theme of everything God does with you, through you, around you, comes from a place of love. It's really that simple. It's really that simple. And after you've done that bringing back what we talked about last week you'll find a level of peace within yourself. When you're doing that, then, from there, seek to create peace around you so that when you create peace around you, it allows you to operate internally and externally from a place of peace. This is how we begin to change the world. Y'all, this is how we change the world.
Speaker 2:So this month has been awesome. I'm super grateful, super thankful for many of y'all and all of y'all. And do me a favor Next week we start a new month, and next month is going to be a little different. I'm going to be a little bit more on the real side. I think we've been real most of the time, but a little bit more on the real side. And those of you who want to maybe help to the selection of the topic, I think the topic is already chosen. However, as we've dealt with the self-love conversation, anything else that's come up, hey, visit the website. I always encourage you guys to subscribe on YouTube. It's one of the best places to see the broadcast.
Speaker 2:Um but, more than anything, uh, shoot me a link on the website and, um, yeah, uh, I'm thankful for y'all. Thank you for your hearts, thank you for everything that you guys have been doing and really been working towards, really trying to find out what God feels about yourself. God feels about the relationships that you're looking to have with people and things about that. This is what all this is for. So, to keep you guys encouraged and know that you can and you will, and, like always, I just want to pray with y'all and let y'all go. Well, you got stuff to do, y'all, and then we'll let y'all go. Those of y'all who got stuff to do, go ahead and take care of your business, but let's send you off with grace.
Speaker 2:So, father, it is with the utmost appreciation that you have taught us to appreciate ourselves. God, you have shown us, in the midst of trying to be better and comparing ourselves to others, that you are growing us to appreciate who we currently are, as we aspire to be more. And, god, we're just asking that, as we walk through this place and as we work out our own salvations, that you'd never let us forget the first initial spirit and the first initial theme that you've always operated in God, which is the theme and the spirit and the position of love For God. You have been with us this far, god. Even right now, god, I hear you telling us, god, that you're proud of us. I hear you telling us, god, great job for starting, great job for trying, great job, for moving, great job. And, god, we thank you for the encouragement, lord.
Speaker 2:And as we continue to walk through these encouraging places, lord, let us never forget that, through it all, god, that you have created a path for us, you've given us hope, you've given us dreams and, god, we're so thankful, lord, that you've also given us provision to be able to see and feel and understand God, just to be able to sit here and talk with each other and be able to encourage each other and know that, even through the midst of trying to be better, I am enough. And we're thankful for that, lord. We're grateful for that, god. We're so grateful for it, lord, and we know, god, that through the midst of it all, you'll keep us close to you, you'll keep us as close as we want to be to you, and we're thankful, father, we're honored God, and we're just blessed by your presence for everything we are and everything we am and everything we're going to be, god, orchestrated by you, the beautiful creator, father. We love you, we bless your name and we're thankful for your grace. We love you, lord. Thank you, god, amen, thank you.
